When I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, initially I too started becoming addicted to my new “tag” of the ailment. In my own experience and observation, I have seen many people who become addicted to remaining patients or people who do not wish to lead an independent life as they have now been diagnosed with an ailment. This again could be something as minor as a cold, cough or headache or a serious one like cancer or the one I was diagnosed with, multiple sclerosis.
When referring to any kind of addiction, it is important to recognize that its cause is not simply a search for pleasure and that addiction has nothing to do with one’s morality or strength of character.
We can keep debating whether addiction is a “disease” or a true mental illness, whether drug dependence and addiction mean the same thing. We can keep talking about the validity of what is recognised as an addiction and what is not. Such questions are just semantics and serve no purpose.
On the other hand, there are stalwarts who combat all kinds of challenges without allowing anything to deter them in life. How do they do this? I feel the first thing we need to do is to acknowledge its presence in our lives. This is usually the most difficult step to take. We think we have an ailment and hence, it is not just part of our life, but who we are. Here, I really honestly feel affirmations and mind power helps to make us realise we can indeed combat whatever issues we may be facing right now.
We have to understand life is full of phases and each phase has something to teach us to become better people.
Once, we accept who we are I strongly recommend a kind of program to remodel ourselves.
- Let us admit after a diagnosis that we really don’t know much about, our lives have become unmanageable.
We need to accept this just as we know there are many things in life itself that we do not know about.
- Let us believe that there is power greater than ourselves that can make us overcome whatever it is that has befallen us.
This is a situation over which we have no control at the moment. However, things do get resolved if we understand that there is a higher Power who has his own plans for us.
- Let us make a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
This is helpful for all of us as none of us is ever perfect. Our life itself is always a work in progress.
- Let us try to resolve all wrongs we may have committed knowingly or unknowingly.
The place we need to do this is through looking at our relationships, relationships and relationships. Instead of always looking at life through our point of view, let us also view it from the point of view of another. If there are situations where we have done something wrong, let us try to set them right, in whatever way we can. In fact, I feel the best lessons in life are those we learn by resolving our relationships.
- Let us try and help as many people as we can in whatever way that is shown to us.
There is nothing that can ever stop us from reaching out to others. This could be through a prayer, a smile or just listening. If there are more options that are doable and possible, let us try to do this. If this is not possible at the current moment, we can always pray for this to happen showing us a suitable path.
The above has certainly helped me lead a better life and I do hope many others do so too.
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