Writing for Life Positive and guiding others has made me come across many people who have several issues they have not resolved due to leaving their inner child unhealed.
Sheela (name changed) is a good friend of mine who had a difficult childhood and several health challenges, all left unresolved as she just did not want to face any of them in life. She pretended everything was fine unless something drastic took place in her health. When that did happen, she would get into a sheltered cocoon, talking to everyone about everything except her health issue and/or her emotional issues still left untreated.
I have seen a lot of others who do have inner child issues but refuse to accept these and therefore do not heal. The fact is, all of us have a suffering inner child. As children, we all have all had times of difficulty as children and many of us have experienced trauma. As children, we just do not know what to do and so, to protect and defend ourselves against future suffering, we somehow try to forget those painful times.
Fortunately, I also know of many people who have also healed themselves. One of them is me. Personally, I had resolved my relationship with own inner child issues that came from misunderstanding my father and his challenges. As a child, we often do not understand others and feel helpless. This results in unnecessary grief even after the event or situation is over. I am glad that before he passed away in 2014, we had a very wholesome relationship and both of us healed from our inner grief. After reading my book and experience, a couple of friends of mine also worked on her inner child and did heal physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
The fact is, every time we’re in touch with the experience of suffering, we think we cannot bear it and just ignore it. We run away from such memories thinking that by not thinking about them, we are handling them. The wounded child asks for care and love, but we do the opposite. The block of pain and sorrow in us feels overwhelming. Even if we have time, we don’t come home to ourselves. We only have to look deeply and we can be in touch with our inner self. The suffering of that wounded child is lying inside us right now in the present moment.
Just as the suffering is present in every cell of our body, so are the seeds of awakened understanding and happiness.
We just have to use them. We have a lamp inside us, the lamp of understanding, which we can light anytime. The oil of that lamp is our breathing, our steps, and our peaceful smile. We have to light up that lamp of so the light will shine out and the darkness will dissipate and cease. All we need to do is to light up the lamp within us.
I firmly believe healing occurs physically only we also work on ourselves emotionally and spiritually and hope others also work on all areas of their lives.
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