A couple of weeks ago on my journey from Delhi to Mumbai, I found myself in conversation with a woman from Canada who was on her way to find what she could do in India.
“I want to make a difference. However, I am so unlucky. I have had a lot of bad luck, especially in India. There are many NGOs who say they are doing good work but they are really not justice to the cause. There are too many bottlenecks,” she said. She already had another list of places she wished to go to and people she wished to approach. Still, she asked me to guide me on where else she could go to, what else she could do. The same was the case with spiritual organisations that she wanted to visit. She wanted my comments on all of them. Not the positive aspects but the problems that could arise and the issues she may have to face.
A few years ago I may have immediately given her some more references of some people I know and educate her further on ‘the problems she may face’. Now, I have seen that people who wish to find an answer need to go step by step and they will get the answers gradually. If we wish to see the positives or the improvements that have taken place in our life or in the NGO, company or whatever it is that we are associated with, we shall indeed see these only. If the focus is on finding problems, we will see these only.
I have observed that life is indeed all about perspective. We need to focus on solutions with problems, if any, to be seen as issues to be overcome or handled. In solving the problem, we shall indeed understand the cause itself much better.
As to what I told the woman from Canada, it was just to spend some time with all the organisations she already knew and see what resonates with her. I did not add to her list of organisations or list of problems as these were anyhow pretty exhaustive.
In the journey of life, I do not ask anyone to change their perspective. My own perspective through my experience of life and working with Life Positive has made me understand that change, if any can only come from within.