The language of the soul begins with love. In the modern era, many of us have forgotten this and hence, we do need to go back to re-learning this law that is the primary law of our being complete wholesome human and humane beings.
We need to learn how to love everyone unconditionally — including our own self. This law can enable us to find the hidden strength and splendour within us and others. Unfortunately, we have never been taught how to love unconditionally. Almost all of our loving has been motivated by emotional desires programmed into us at an early age.
The most natural love that we all experience is that of a mother for her child. Miracles are created through this love. Later, we spend most of our lives trying to define and find ‘love’ in all our relationships.
Most of our love experiences have taught us we must earn or deserve love before we can have it and that others must deserve our love. This is conditional love. This is not love but a business transaction.
This is why our well-meaning but unskilled attempts to love usually end up in separation and alienation.
Parents tell their children they must get a certain number of grades to be loved. My friend, Anita’s (name changed) son was convinced that he should aim to become a doctor as there were successful doctors on both sides of his family. He tried his best but could not succeed. They kept pushing and prodding him. His self-esteem plummeted to the lowest level as he was just not being able to relate to the subject itself. When his lecturers said he would be rusticated, he took the awful plunge of committing suicide.
The above is of course an extreme case but depression and stress seems to be the name of the game in a world that is craving for love, true love. In the area of parenting, many parents have forgotten that what is required from them is just pure love and not proving a point to anyone.
In fact, the most natural love that we all experience is that of a mother for her child. Miracles are created through this love. Later, we spend most of our lives trying to define and find ‘love’ in all our relationships.
This can and shall happen only if we understand that love is always unconditional. When we do understand what love is, we shall begin speaking the language of the soul.