Forgiveness, the mantra of being and flowing in life

I have attended many workshops and read many books in the zone of self help and motivation. What I have seen is that the one principle that makes us feel must better and by extension, the world around us better is forgiving others for what they have done.

“Lord forgive them as they know not what they have done,” said Jesus and founded an entire religion based on this key principle.

The religion was born but have we imbibed its principles and those that teach us the same thing in their own way ? I truly do not know if we have as we are looking out for whom to blame almost all the time.

How then can we learn to forgive? This is possible only when we understand them. This understanding can come only if step into their shoes and look at the world from their perspective.

This is beneficial for them and most importantly for us too. For, in the journey of life, not forgiving others impacts our mind so intensely that the body too rebels.

When someone errs inadvertently or knowingly, if we bless them with equanimity, there are definitely more chances that change could take place in the whole scenario. Even if the situation does not change as we would like it to, we can be at peace only if we learn to forgive.

There are many techniques people use to forgive.  Writing their names and throwing water, so on and so forth. What makes most sense to me, however, is to forgive people as we and they are dynamic beings who change all the time. I would like to end with a favourite story of mine in this context.

The Buddha was sitting under a tree talking to his disciples when a man came and spat in his face. He wiped it off, and he asked the man, “What next? What do you want to say next?” The man was a little puzzled because he himself never expected that when you spit on somebody’s face, he will ask, “What next?” He had no such experience in his past. He had insulted people and they had become angry and they had reacted. Or if they were cowards and weaklings, they had smiled, trying to bribe the man. But Buddha was like neither, he was not angry nor in any way offended, nor in any way cowardly. But just matter-of-factly he said, “What next?” There was no reaction on his part.

Puzzled, confused, the man returned home. He could not sleep the whole night. When you see a Buddha, it is difficult, impossible to sleep anymore the way you used to sleep before. Again and again he was haunted by the experience. He could not explain it to himself, what had happened. He was trembling all over, sweating and soaking the sheets. He had never come across such a man; the Buddha had shattered his whole mind and his whole pattern, his whole past.

The next morning he went back. He threw himself at Buddha’s feet. Buddha asked him again, “What next? This, too, is a way of saying something that cannot be said in language. When you come and touch my feet, you are saying something that cannot be said ordinarily, for which all words are too narrow; it cannot be contained in them.”

The man looked at Buddha and said, “Forgive me for what I did yesterday.”

Buddha said, “Forgive? But I am not the same man to whom you did it. The Ganges goes on flowing, it is never the same Ganges again. Every man is a river. The man you spit upon is no longer here. I look just like him, but I am not the same, much has happened in these twenty-four hours! The river has flowed so much. So I cannot forgive you because I have no grudge against you.

“And you also are new. I can see you are not the same man who came yesterday because that man was angry and he spit, whereas you are bowing at my feet, touching my feet. How can you be the same man? You are not the same man, so let us forget about it. Those two people, the man who spit and the man on whom he spit, both are no more. Come closer. Let us talk of something else.”


Remaining human, humane and Indian


Jayshree Shukla is born and bred in Delhi, a street photographer, a flaneur, a lover of history and a heritage buff.

Whether it is India or any other nation, the fact is we need to understand a nation is created by the ethos and ethics of the citizens. After all, it is citizens create a nation that then becomes an identity.

We in India were brought up to believe that all paths to the divine lead to the same destination and most importantly, everyone is free to make their own choice. Now, in the confusion about food and food choices, we have begun adding one more label to the identity of humanity that is actually the only true identity we all have. Food is becoming more political and judgemental than it ever was in the history of India along with a million other labels.

Personally, I happen to be a vegetarian but posts like the one below by Jayshree Shukla always make me feel the identity of humanity and the India I believe in is still alive.

Jayshree says, “Raju (my husband) returned home last night after a longish spell and decided to take me out to Karim (a nearby restaurant) tonight. We were sharing the table with two sweet boys.

“Chicken tikka, chicken curry aur chicken biryani lao” asked the lads of the waiter. Raju started chatting with the boys. We are from Kanpur they said and have just reached Delhi from Vaishno Devi. I was delighted to see that piety had not got the better of our dear lads. From VaishnoDevi they had landed straight into the arms of Karim and Jama Masjid (a famous mosque).

This is my India”

Like Jayshree, I hope and pray that the identity of Indianness remains inclusive whatever one may call it. After all, don’t we all wish to leave a better world for our children by teaching them to connect and bond instead of focussing on whom to hate and avoid and why? For this, should we not set examples ourselves by remaining human and humane ? Is this not our primary identity whatever else we may be?


Why not me? says a true heroine

janineThere are some who show us what strength of the spirit truly is.

One of them is Janine Shepherd from Australia.  She was a super athlete who had trained since she was a child and had won medals galore since the age of 10.

When in her twenties, she was cycling through some mountains as part of her training routine. She was hit by a vehicle, suffering massive injuries. She suffered a broken neck and back, lost five litres of blood, suffered severe lacerations to her abdominal area. Her right leg was ripped open, her collarbone and five ribs were fractured, and she suffered serious internal injuries. Doctors at first thought she would not live, but she pulled through. She was then told that she would be bound to a wheelchair for the rest of her life, and would never bear children.

She was naturally very depressed but kept thinking on what do no next. The turning point came in my life when I asked “Why not me”? instead of “Why me?” she says.

She decided to overcome her difficulty through the strength of her spirit and did all that she could slowly but steadily.

Over the next few years, she began to go through the slow rehabilitation process. She was determined to defy the predictions set by her doctors, and succeeded in doing so. While still remaining a partial paraplegic, she was ultimately able to walk again, and has three children. She gained her pilots license within a year of the accident, and went on to gain a Commercial pilot’s licence, an instructor’s license, eventually becoming a trained aerobatics flying instructor.

Now, she is an ambassador for Spinal Cure Australia and has been awarded her country’s highest civilian honour “Order of Australia” in 2001, for her service to the community, her inspiration and her work in raising awareness of spinal cord research.

She has published many books, is a motivational speaker and shows us there is nothing that the human spirit cannot overcome.

Playing our role in the drama of life

dramaoflifeWe often get along with a group of people who we find similar to us but often stay away from those who seem different. This is actually a very limited way of being. To expand our consciousness and way of being, we need to perceive others in a different way.

We could become the people and situations that can help you become clearly and strongly aware of our way of thinking. Usually we carefully protect ourselves from people we “just can’t stand”, we run the other way when life gives us a relationship that worries us.

This is actually a lesson that we need to learn and if we try and run away from it, we may see the lesson repeating in our lives again and again in a myriad ways. After all, life is indeed the greatest school of all and we need to work in this school diligently to learn and apply these lessons in all areas of life. In my case, I remember the time I used to run away from people who talked about ritualism, thinking is was at the lowest rung of spirituality. Now, this again is a judgement that no one has the right to make. When people get together be it for a ritual, for  a chant or for discussions of any kind, if they find it empowering, they are surely free to do so. Why should we judge the way anyone wishes to explore life?

Life is after all all always beautiful if we look at it with the perception of wishing to understand and not judge. It is only with seeking to understand that we shall see the different perceptions that everyone has. By understanding everyone’s perceptions, we shall indeed realise we all are players in the drama of the world. None of us is superior or inferior. We just are playing our role in the situation we are placed in. In that sense, we all are actors being directed by a supreme being who is pulling the threads. How we train our consciousness to play the role well, if of course entirely upto us.

Healing millions – the nature’s way

naturopathyThere are some people who selflessly serve others without expecting anything. One such person is Dr Salila Tiwari whom I have proud to have met.

Many come to her when they are fed up of being told their condition is ‘incurable’.

Mr Parveen Nagpal works in the the United states as a Software & Business Consultant. He had been suffering from Inflammatory Bowel Disease (IBD) for more than a year and was given lots of drugs including Prednisolone, Mesalamine. However, they stopped making  him feel any better after some time and he hated putting so many drugs in his body. His friend told him about the natural way of healing and strongly recommended that he gets in touch with Dr. Salila Tiwari who is based in Delhi.  He immediately did so. Soon, his inflammation levels reduced significantly and he was able to leave taking medicines.  Having had such a great result through simple nature cure, he strongly recommends that everyone gets in touch with Dr. Salila Tiwari to start their life-changing journey.

Another such individual is Mr Manoj Misran. He had a chronic psoriasis disease for more than 20 years. He had seen multiple doctors and different types of therapies (allopathy, homeopathy, ayurveda, acupuncture and so on). He had also spent 7 years in United States and consulted the world’s best doctors. Nothing worked. Some of the top doctors told him point blank that there was no permanent cure for psoriasis in medical science. All he could  do was take medicines to treat the symptoms. Three years back he applied for a term insurance for himself and the insurance company rejected his application on medical grounds. It was then that he came to know that his LFT (Lever Function Test) failed. After consulting a doctor, he came to know that the lever gets badly impacted due to long time use of the medicine he was taking. Now he was very depressed because if he stopped taking this medicine, his skin will be damaged and if he kept taking this medicine then his liver will become weaker. He was in a dilemma.

Often solutions come to our lives when we need them the most. His colleague asked him to contact  Dr. Salila Tewari and take her guidance.  She suggested that he attend a course of 8 classes that explains complete naturopathy.  He still was not sure that it can do much but  started following it religiously as he really seemed to have no choice.

Dr. Tewari then asked him to completely stop all medicines. Though he was afraid that his psoriasis might get reactivated, he decided to follow her advice and left taking medicines. In the first month the symptoms did show up but the intensity was very low. This made him really excited and he became much more disciplined in following the course suggested by Dr. Tewari. He did not even consult Dr. Salila Tewari as he did not need to.  He just followed what she had explained in the class.

It took him about 7-8 months of rigorous discipline but it was worth it as he was completely cured. It is now three years since he left taking any medication. Not only psoriasis but even his thyroid problem got cured. Now, he is thrilled at leading a completely normal life. He eats normally. He goes to parties. He visits restaurants with family but he knows how to clean himself internally and detoxify his body.

So much so that in his company that is the world’s largest reinsurance company, he is the only one who has not taken a single sick leave in the past three years.


Dr Salila Tiwari

These are just a couple of examples from among the millions of people Dr. Salila Tewari, an internationally renowned naturopath has healed as ‘incurable’ is something she does not believe in and has healed thousands of people the world over with a missionary zeal.

After speaking to her and all those who have been cured or healed whatever we may call it,  I cannot but remember the emotions of all those who are so moved at being restored to wellness due to her magic touch and wish her all the best in her journey of healing and educating others in how to heal themselves. Her number is 09818117859 and she can be contacted between 1830 to 2030 IST  Indian time on weekdays.




Path of healing

Very often, life throws challenges at people to show them a new path of being.

healingWhen K Girish, an electrical engineer from Bangalore was 28, he was blessed with a bonny boy.  Before even celebrating it, he was put in a state of anxiety as the baby kept crying continuously. He did not know what to do while the doctors hospitalised him for one month and  in a warm chamber for one week. After this, he came home. Just when Girish felt the boy would remain healthy, he began having a continuously running nose and fever till the age of thirteen. Girish went to several doctors, gave him many types of medicines but the problem persisted with his son being admitted to hospital three times.

He kept praying for a path to be shown to him and was shown alternate therapies like Reiki, Sujok, acupuncture.  His first tryst was with Reiki when he saw his son’s fever coming down when a well known Reiki healer gave him healing and his fever began coming down.

In 2012, he decided to become a healer himself as he did not want anyone to go through the ordeal he had been through. He then learnt Reiki himself, sujok seed therapy and acupuncture. After doing all this on his son, he became almost completely well. In the process. Girish also has been treating several people who have seen wonderful results.

My own aunt in her sixties, who was suffering from benign essential tremor characterised by her neck  shaking without any control became much better after just a couple of weeks with Girish’s treatment.

One of his patients, a 43 year old lady, who was diagnosed with fibroids and was bleeding continuously became so much better that a surgery scheduled on her was cancelled as it was not required any longer.  Her endometriosis and bleeding became all right with just fifteen days of treatment.

These are just a couple of examples from a long list of people who have healed by his treatment. Girish is still learning all the time so that he can become a better healer. Knowing his perseverance and skills, I am sure he will heal many more people in his journey of life that has healing as the key component.

To all those who require a ray of hope, Girish can be contacted at


Girish’s Clinic

K Girish -M.D ( Sujok), Diploma Acupuncture, BSc in Acupuncture

Anu Acupuncture Clinic

46/47, Bhajane Madira Road

Jaraganahalli, J P Nagar 6th Phase

Bangalore  – 560078

MOB: 9343719600  / 9845436651


The language of the soul

loveThe language of the soul begins with love. In the modern era, many of us have forgotten this and hence, we do need to go back to re-learning this law that is the primary law of our being complete wholesome human and humane beings.

We need to learn how to love everyone unconditionally — including our own self. This law can enable us to find the hidden strength and splendour within us and others.  Unfortunately, we have never been taught how to love unconditionally.  Almost all of our loving has been motivated by emotional desires programmed into us at an early age.

The most natural love that we all experience is that of a mother for her child. Miracles are created through this love. Later, we spend most of our lives trying to define and find ‘love’ in all our relationships.

Most of our love experiences have taught us we must earn or deserve love before we can have it and that others must deserve our love.  This is conditional love. This is not love but a business transaction.

This is why our well-meaning but unskilled attempts to love usually end up in separation and alienation.

Parents tell their children they must get a certain number of grades to be loved.  My friend, Anita’s (name changed) son was convinced that he should aim to become a doctor as there were successful doctors on both sides of his family. He tried his best but could not succeed. They kept pushing and prodding him. His self-esteem plummeted to the lowest level as he was just not being able to relate to the subject itself. When his lecturers said he would be rusticated, he took the awful plunge of committing suicide.

The above is of course an extreme case but depression and stress seems to be the name of the game in a world that is craving for love, true love. In the area of parenting, many parents have forgotten that what is required from them is just pure love and not proving a point to anyone.

In fact, the most natural love that we all experience is that of a mother for her child. Miracles are created through this love. Later, we spend most of our lives trying to define and find ‘love’ in all our relationships.

This can and shall happen only if we understand that love is always unconditional. When we do understand what love is, we shall begin speaking the language of the soul.

Healing how does it work?

yoga_postHealing takes place only if allow it to take place. Here, in my experience therapies that promote natural healing are much more effective than approaches that aim to stop just the symptoms. Here, acupuncture that is a method of encouraging the body to promote natural healing and to improve functioning is hugely beneficial. Acupuncture works by inserting needles and applying heat or electrical stimulation at very precise acupuncture points.

The classical chinese explanation is that channels of energy run in regular patterns through the body and over its surface. These energy channels, called meridians, are like rivers flowing through the body to irrigate and nourish the tissues. An obstruction in the movement of these energy rivers is like a dam that backs up in others.

The meridians can be influenced by needling the acupuncture points; the acupuncture needles unblock the obstructions at the dams, and reestablish the regular flow through the meridians. Acupuncture treatments can therefore help the body’s internal organs to correct imbalances in their digestion, absorption, and energy production activities, and in the circulation of their energy through the meridians.

The modern scientific explanation is that needling the acupuncture points stimulates the nervous system to release chemicals in the muscles, spinal cord, and brain. These chemicals will either change the experience of pain, or they will trigger the release of other chemicals and hormones which influence the body’s own internal regulating system.

The improved energy and biochemical balance produced by acupuncture results in stimulating the body’s natural healing abilities, and in promoting physical and emotional well-being.

Apart from these theraphies, healing methodologies like Reiki, hypnotherapy, neuro linguistic programming, affirmations, chakra healing and the likes tha aims to reprogram the mind always adds value for the mind is indeed very powerful.

Of course, in all areas, we need to persevere and continue empowering ourselves all the time.

When it comes to ailments like the one I was diagnosed with, multiple sclerosis, what helped me most of all was looking for solutions while not succumbing to more tests  as soon as I got to know that allopathy does not have a solution as of now.

I did find solutions that have completely healed me and shall be eternally grateful for this.

However, I would also like to also emphasise that these worked because I consciously worked on my body, mind and spirit and did not put the cart before the horse as many people tend to do when faced with challenges that do not have a clear answer.

In my case, the answer has always been try to do your best and leave the rest. This attitude is a truism for for everyone always.

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Complete Healing

completehealingAmong the many benefits of writing for a wellness magazine like Life Positive, I have realised that everyone needs healing in one way or another.

In all my experience of life, I have realised that people get healed only when they truly wish to be healed from within. This could be in any area, of the body, mind or spirit.

Here, the greatest blessings I have received is the good karma that I have obtained by guiding others in all areas through my writing.

As of now, I could and would like to guide others if they need help in any area if they connect with me on – Where I can help, I shall do so. Where they need help from someone else, again I shall guide them to the right people to the best of my knowledge.

People could also comment here so that others could also help them to the best of their knowledge. People sometimes say these kind of comments could be useless but I do feel one can benefit if one sieves through them and picks up what could be relevant to them. After all, it is only sharing that benefits all of us.

So, I request everyone to reach out for help when you need it and believe me, you shall get it sooner or later. Once one receives help, what is required from us is perseverance to walk on the path shown to us. The time table is not ours to make. That is always in the hands of the creator or the divine whatever we may choose to call it. In the process of getting healed, we shall of course learn a lot and this is what we are born for as learning lessons all the time which is another parlance is called experience. This indeed is the journey of life.

Many Gods or one God

manygodsVery often, we Hindus are asked why we have many deities and even hold weapons. “Are Gods not supposed to be peaceful” is a question that is asked often. The fact is, although peace is something people desire, the journey of life is such that one traverses through many paths before true inner peace sets in. Everywhere, we need to identify ourselves with someone.

This is why we are shown such images. The fact is our human mind often succumbs to fear. In a sense, fear is the primary enemy of wellness of the body, mind and spirit. It is due to the conditioned mind set to see the God with powerful weapons to protect from evil forces..

For instance, when we are chased by a street dog for unknown reasons and if somebody is there around with a stick then we tend to run and stand behind that person to save us from that chasing dog. He may or may not protect us but we look at him as a protector.  Similarly it’s nothing but the mind set of the devotees to visualise their God holding powerful weapons to protect them from demons and evil forces. As we know our fears are more of imagination than reality and in order to overcome this inherent defect it needs such powerful divine fallback to continue their life journey in faith and peace.

This makes the soul believe that all will be well and we continue on our life path to the best of our ability.

When we understand all of life, including one God, many Gods or our own self as a God, we shall surely be absolutely comfortable in the journey of life for we are after all from the same source, whatever we may call it.

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