Victim to victor

There are many things we just ignore and push under the carpet. One of them is that of social evils like child abuse. This is an issue all of us usually ignore as we somehow think it happens to others and never in homes that seem to be educated. There are some like Harrish Iyer, however, who have moved from being a victim to a victor.

harishiyer“My uncle was giving me a bath when I was 7 years old, and that’s when it first happened. At 12, I began to get gang-raped by his friends, and I would bleed but keep quiet as I felt I would not be considered ‘man enough’ to not bear pain?”, he says. As it was his own relative, he did not know what to make out of this seemingly regular event.

Harrish decided to make the motto of his life to be the protection of other children from sexual abuse. He has become a mentor to many and is guiding them on how to take care of themselves.

Throwing off all poisons

Carrie Fisher, the late actress and writer said. “Resentment is the poison you swallow hoping the other person will die.”

This did not mean he wanted to punish and take revenge on anyone. “Though I have been through 11 years of hell I don’t think the world is a bad place. I thank my bullies, because they got me to a place where I have the opportunity to touch other’s lives. I believe that hate only destroys the person who indulges in hating, not the person being hated so I don’t wish to spend my energy in hating my uncle.” Thinking about life and its ramifications in general, he continues “If I could, I would send a therapist to help my uncle. He also needs to be helped, after all”.

We can see that he has indeed grown as a person in all areas, always focussing on what he can do and NOT making his life that of victimhood.

 

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