Fearlessness is not the absence or denial of fear, it is intimacy with fear.
We need to first understand what we are afraid of. If we do not hassle ourselves emotionally when the outside world does not conform with our inside programming (our desires, expectations, demands, or models of how the world should treat us), we will have so much energy that we probably will sleep fifty per cent less. We will be joyous and loving, and really appreciate each moment of our life — no matter what’s happening in the world of people and situations outside us.
Where and how did we get this emotional programming? Almost all of it was acquired in the first few years of life. For example, when we were very young, we have all made mistakes at one time or the other. We could have broken something inadvertently and then been beaten, slapped or scolded. Essentially, we received bad vibrations for no reason that we could fathom completely. We would then cry or repress our emotion. Through being painfully pushed around, dominated, told what to do, and controlled when we were babies, we developed our emotionally intense security, sensation, and power programs.
Many of our emotion-backed programs came from repeated moral directives or statements about how things “should” be. We developed a “self” consciousness with robot-like emotional responses to protect the “survival” of this separate self. So we become emotionally programmed to feel that we must have power to control and manipulate people in order to be happy. We eventually become very finely attuned to the actions or vibrations of any person or situation that even remotely threatens our addiction to power, that is seen as our ability to manipulate and control people and things around us. As we reach physical maturity and our brain is able to function more perceptively, we have all the power we need. But with the full repertory of our emotions, we are still programmed to compensate for the power deficiency we experienced when we were infants and young children. We now need to learn to flow with the people and things around us. Our power addiction keeps us from loving people because we perceive them as objects that may threaten our power, prestige, or pecking order.
Our power addiction is only one example of the happiness-destroying programming that we put into our inner computers when we were too young to perceive the realities of the world in which we lived. Although we now have the basic capacity for clear perception, the operating instructions we gave our inner computer make us go automatically to the lower levels. This is how we are unconsciously trapped.
The reality is that it is only the present that is the reality in our lives. We do know that it is only from the conditions of the present that our future can be generated. However, our present addictions, demands, and expectations through the programming of our inner computer dominate our consciousness and force us to spend most of the time we are awake and most of the time we are dreaming in protesting and pouting about the here and now situation in our lives.
The biggest hurdle for all of us here is ‘fear’. Fear can cripple us and make us extremely afraid of what could happen next.
It could be in the area of relationships, career or anything else that we come across.
We can combat it only by developing intimacy with this primal emotion. This is what in the language of chakras, the first chakra, the mooladhara chakra signifies.